There aren’t a lot of transsexuals in this country. Or anywhere. Estimates are that a bit more than 1% of the population identify as trans. Possibly it’s a bit higher here in Portland, because, after all, people naturally migrate to places in which they’re somewhat less likely to be murdered. It might be even higher in certain neighborhoods. In our local grocery store, there’s a pretty good likelihood that you’re going to surreptitiously squint at the clerk’s name tag because you don’t want to get things wrong, or Yes-Ma’am someone inappropriately, because you strive to be a nice person, because that’s who we try to be in Portland. Most of us don’t think that’s too much to ask.
I guess that sets us apart. In much of the country, we in Portland are vilified both for our desire to be considerate of other people, which is considered precious and wrongheaded, if not subversive, and also for all the vandalism and arson and stuff we’re not actually doing. It’s hard to know how to feel about that. We’re all, Thank you? and Whut?
Anyway I’m just guessing, although the stats bear me out. Whatever the percentage, I do not believe it has changed much over time. And that too has been borne out in many studies. Whatever random biological circumstance has led people to the unfortunate position of feeling profoundly at odds with their presumed sexual identity, and all that entails, from bullying and social confusion and suicide and exclusion to the aforementioned murdering, it appears to surface naturally in the human population in steady numbers. One might therefore conclude the occurrence is normal, if rare. It’s just another item in the ledger of human possibilities.
One might so conclude that, that is, unless one is mining the golden vein of fear and ignorance and aims to spend those nuggets on winning power. Republican strategists tested numerous issues prior to the 2024 election to determine which ones reliably moved the needle in their direction, and concluded that the emphasis should be on illegal immigration and…huh. Pronouns? Drag queens? Some odd-looking woman towering over innocent high school girls in a basketball game? Stuff like that there.
It was hard for me to take it seriously at first. For one thing, I have lived long enough to accept that there are all sorts of people in the world and I will confine my distrust to those that actually are a threat. And also because, you know, we’re swiftly destroying our livable habitat with fossil fuels, our historical racism is back with a vengeance, imperial dictators are wantonly massacring swaths of Ukrainians on their way to positioning themselves for World War III, the oceans are dying, and some people just can’t be bothered to walk their shopping carts back to the corral, to take just a few things more important than the existence of queers.
So. Illegal immigration, and queers. Let’s just dispense with the “illegal” and call it plain immigration for now, because we really just mean brownish people we can pick up and pack off to a detention camp in Guantanamo for all eternity. If they’re actually legal, no one will ever find out from there or hear from them again. Works for me, as much of the electorate says—no one’s picking up my white ass.
But somehow, using grainy footage and inflammatory suggestion and the brainwashing power of repetition, a whole lot of Americans have become persuaded that there is a left-wing conspiracy to corrupt our children and encourage them to swap out their birth-assigned sexes like they’d changed their minds about a menu.
Oh, Petunia. Queerness isn’t taught. It’s a gift.
There may be trans citizens who have come to appreciate that the abuse they have encountered all their lives has made them more thoughtful and tolerant people, but I would suspect a vanishingly small number of parents, counselors, and teachers wish this torture and scorn for their children. And that is why they advocate and celebrate and speak up for the queer community. It’s a campaign of compassion, not coercion.
But hey. Rousing the rabble with bullshit and bluster is a damned easy way of getting into power so you can continue to raid the treasury, rake in the dough, rape the planet. Players know how to play, and know how to move their pawns.
Enjoyed the Read, and hated the reality! Well Done!
Thanks, and yah!
The percentage of trans people in America is so miniscule. And honestly, who is counting? How do they even know? Are we going to start inspecting everyone’s genitals like they want to check high school and college athletes?
I live in a small town. We have a chain drug store. They have an employee whose look is ambiguous. The adult employee has a very high pitched voice but is starting to grow facial hair. The person is an excellent employee who does not wear a name tag and is very helpful and friendly. First time shoppers sometimes give the employee a look, but they are so helpful and friendly – we all just live our lives. They now have a new employee, a very pleasant young man who is wearing female clothing and seems to be a close friend of the other cashier. No one is blinking an eye.
I live in a very red, very “christian” small town. And the attitude at the drug store seems to be, none of my business and live and let live. But these same red hatters will march at the courthouse for christian nationalism and demand who uses what bathroom. It is like a bunch of brainwashed knuckleheads.
I can’t imagine being a teen discovering who you are in this town and how scared they must be.
Even though I am a straight, white, older female, I am afraid for the brown-skinned people I know. Also the queer people I know.
There’s Antonio, who does handyman type stuff for me and my neighbor Debbie. He and his crew work long and hard, and they don’t charge as much as Anglos. Which is good for both Debbie and me, as we are both retired and on fixed incomes.
There’s the people who work at my local farm market. The owner, Ruth, can only keep Mexicans as employees. Anglos find farm work too hard. They quit in a day or so. Her long-time employees are all afraid.
There’s Anthony, an obviously queer guy who works at a local Sephora. I don’t shop there regularly, but when I do, I only want him to wait on me. He once spent quite a while helping me choose a foundation as well as the right color. He seemed genuinely interested in getting it right. Whenever I’ve gone there and someone else waits on me, I usually don’t buy anything. They obviously are more interested in scrolling on their phones, and just steer me to the more popular a/o expensive stuff, without asking me about my needs.
The only point of light in this whole kerfuffle is all the protests that are going on. Not that that will change policy, as obviously Trump and Musk think they can do no wrong. And don’t care if they do. They try to distract us with bullshit. we have to not take the bait, and focus on what’s going on in the hand behind their backs instead of the one they are trying to distract us with.
I am also afraid for Ukrainians and Western Europeans and everyone in this world of climate change: to name but a few.
Miss Merry: I get a kick out of an acquaintance who said “Who are they fooling? You can always tell.”* I said: “Except when you can’t.”
*And the disconnect she referred to is the point of puberty blockers, BTW.
This was a good (but scary & defeating) read. I had to read it twice to appreciate it fully. This reminded me of the late 70s, when Anita Bryant took up the cause to hate gays. Her argument was that since they couldn’t procreate, they had to recruit YOUR children to populate their team. It created such an uproar, she lost that sweet gig pimping Florida orange juice. It makes me wonder how she’d be seen today. :^(
Well, she just died, so if things play out the way she believed in, she’s in a bit of trouble with God right now.
Hey Murr: what’s the story on your photos at the top of the post? I think I’ve seen the one of the child posted here before, but don’t recall seeing the adult.
Maybe I live in a more queer friendly area (never felt like that to me growing up. I’m cis, but was constantly being heckled by people who thought I was gay) or maybe having worked at a university we had more diversity there.
It’s a photo of my father’s older sibling Gertrude, who lived as male from his early teens onward. And Gertrude was born in 1906, if you can imagine the pile of shit that entailed at the time. Still does, of course, but even the idea he could portray himself as William in, say, 1920, was remarkable–even for him to be able to name what he was. What models did he have? The right picture is him when I tracked him down in around 1980.
Oh, that’s fabulous! I also vaguely remembered these photos, but had forgotten (if, indeed, you had mentioned) the familial connection.
So cool you have these memories & these photos!
Well said (as usual)!
Wow! Impressive about Gertrude! Just about every family, with some extensions past immediate, that I’ve ever known have had some gender wiggle room in their clans. I try to do my best these days with the presented pronouns but the bottom line for me is: you be you and I’ll be me, respect all around. Spoken by a cis-boom-baa!
It does seem to be harder for old farts to meet all requests, get all that right. We have too many well-worn grooves in our language and we just keep rolling back in them.
Glad you published this. From my limited viewpoint, I can see how the ginned-up fear of queer is successful — from an otherwise normal (? is anyone?) family member who reacts to TV commercials by claiming “they” are “pushing the gay lifestyle on me.” He really takes it as a personal affront. I wonder why he feels this way.
“Lifestyle.” Oy.
We always seem to have to have somebody to ” other.”
And if we don’t, why, they’ll manufacture one for us!
PS- the NCAA says there are over 500,000 college athletes. When the commissioner was asked how many are trans- “Five”.
Horrors!