One thing about Tater cat. She doesn’t care to be profiled. So she wags her tail when she’s happy, she bounds to the front door if anyone knocks, she lets me trim her toenails because shredding my personal meat instead never occurs to her, and, in general, she writes her own story.
So no surprise I no sooner put in a blog post about how great her condition is in her old age than she starts to falter. Don’t define me, she says, and shit starts to happen. Fast. She had a seizure about a half a year ago and has been on oral meds since then. True to form, she is seriously unhappy about being corralled for a blast from an oral syringe three times a day, but has no idea what to do about it.
We’ve gotten a whole lot of cat out of this cat. She was a lot of cat to begin with. She’s closer to 19 than 18 and until very recently she looked like a kitten. A really big kitten, and then a smaller one. She was 12.5 pounds and then she was 5.5, and still kicking, still charging the front door, still gobbling up the same damn dry kibble she’s eaten her whole life, with no diversions. Don’t try to feed this cat a treat or fresh chicken or salmon or even ice cream. She’ll give you the same look as an expatriate Russian dissident being cornered in a crowd.
But—probably because I deigned to rain praises on her health in a blog post—something changed last week. She was fine on Friday. Saturday morning I notice a big clump of fur on the carpet. Then another. There were dozens and dozens of big tufts of her famous fur, her otter-fur, her utterly buttery velvet suit, all over the carpet. And the cat herself was balding along the spinal column. Overnight. Also? Not interested in her kibble. I was alarmed. We took her in to see the vet.
Now, I thought “sudden unprecedented loss of appetite” and “sudden dumpage of fur” were pretty specific symptoms. Of something. Imagine my surprise when, after a few routine questions—no, she’s not itchy, no, she isn’t over-grooming, no, she doesn’t appear to be in any pain—the vet stuck her laptop right on the exam table as Tater nosed around it, and started Googling. For, like, twenty minutes. Which, of course, was exactly what I had done, before coming up short and deciding to ask a vet.
“Seven years in this office,” the veterinarian said, finally, “and I still keep seeing new things.”
She called the next day. The blood work was grim. “And I still don’t know what the fur loss is about,” she said.
I do. Tater has always had a sense of humor. She hung onto her every follicle until the day after we took her nemesis, the cursed vacuum cleaner, in for service, and then she let fly. Now you’ll remember me forever, she thinks.
Tater loves everyone, but Dave is her very sun. If he is going upstairs for a shower, she bounds ahead of him and waits for him at the top. She parks herself just outside the room where all the nasty water is until he re-emerges safe and sound. When Dave developed troubles of his own and had to slow down on the stairs, she preceded him one step at a time, looking back to make sure he got to the next step. Yes, she did. Dave is her guy.
She ate nothing for four days. She still made the leap into Daddy’s lap, and, abandoning the tiny squeak she has used to communicate with humans her whole life, she rubbed his nose with her own and cut loose with a full Mrow. Mroww.
Tater cat had a good long life and we gave her a good death, the best we knew how. So long, little buddy.
We’ll get the vacuum cleaner back in a few days. But she’s right. We won’t forget her.
Oh, Murr… I’m so sorry. Having lost many parrots over the years, I know how devastating it is to lose a family member. I especially chafe when people say things like, “Aren’t parrots supposed to live a long time?” Well, they CAN. So can people. But diseases happen. Cancer happens. Strokes and heart attacks can happen. In ALL creatures, not just humans.
Tater lives on as long as he is remembered. And he will be remembered by all of us.
She died? Oh no! That was so sudden after her being so healthy just a couple of weeks ago. 🙁 🙁
I’m so terribly sorry. I know you will miss Tater. She led a good life and was lucky to have you and Dave.
“When a man loves cats, I am his friend and comrade, without further introduction.”
― Mark Twain
Rest In Peace sweet Tater. A cat among cats.
“Without FURther introduction.” I saw what you did there.
oh my dear Tater. I am so sorry!
Oh Murr. I certainly wasn’t expecting this one. A real curve ball from out of no where. Tater was such a gorgeous, independent cat, and I know a dear part of your family. Sending you all the hugs.
There is no other sadness like this.
I’m very sorry to read this. They rip a piece of hearts out when they go.
Murr, I knew a few days ago that this post was coming but it didn’t make it any easier to bear. What a very fine cat. I’m sure his soul is still guiding Dave on those stairs.
😞
Requiescat in pace, Tater. May memories of you comfort Murr and Dave.
Thanks everyone. I’m doing well, or I was before I saw all these kind comments, and now I’m all busted up again.
Oh Murr, Although new to your comment section, I am a “long time reader” and feel as though I’ve known Tater. Pet relationships aren’t just about love and happiness, but also about unspoken habits and routine which are sometimes the most painful to give up. 3 years after losing our 16yr old dog, I still think I hear her coming to share every time I sit down for lunch. Or I think I see her out of the corner of my eye. But now it is w nostalgia. We are all thinking of you.
Oh noooo. I’m so very sorry about Tater cat. She was a beaut and a hoot. My sincere condolences to you and Dave.
I am so, so sorry. 😢
I’m so sorry for you and real sad for Dave!
Oh no! I’m so very sorry to hear of Tater’s passing. Whatever caused her sudden decline, she clearly enjoyed her life right up until those last few days and then you let her go so she wouldn’t suffer. Sadly, we who are left behind are the ones who suffer. Thinking of you and Dave…it’s so hard to lose a family member, especially one that has been with you for so many years.
So sad to hear this news. Tater looked like my cat, Kala, who passed in November after 25 years with me. The heartache is always hard. They were our children and caretakers. Never forgotten. Always missed.
Tater was definitely one of a kind. Never easy to have to say goodbye. I hope you and Dave can take some solace from knowing she was herself pretty much up to when she had to depart. Sending big hugs.
I am so sorry. Tater had an incredible life with you and Dave.❤️❤️
I’m sorry, Murr. She gave you a lot of memories to hold on to, and you and Dave gave her love. When Emily’s cat Soot died, we put his ashes under a corner of the fence, and every spring crocus sprout through the snow over him. We cherish those.
I am so very sorry to read this.
Love that cat and I love that you two got as much time with Tater as you did. Sending our love from Colorado to you.
How lucky were you three to be a family for so long? This just hurts my heart, mostly for Dave. I’m so sorry she’s gone.
I so sad for you and Dave. Such a vital part of your family. Bless you both for loving her all those years and then for making sure she didn’t suffer when her time ran out. THAT is love. I never actually met Tater, yet through your writing, I DID know her and will really miss reading about her. She was definitely one of a kind. I know you both will miss her terribly but that you’ll have such wonderful memories to cherish. Sending BIG hugs to you both.
She was a cool cat. The best kind.
She was a lovely loving friend. I am so sad to hear she has finally mouthed her last meow. It seems like no matter how long or fast the decline is, the end is shockingly unexpected.
Aww shucks.
Oh no. I was so sorry to read this.
I’ve been blessed by cats in my life since babyhood, and I know what a hole they leave in your life, when they go.
My condolences to you and Dave…
Beth, in Oregon City.
There is nothing like a good cat. So sorry for your loss.
Damn, damn, damn. We love you, honey.
Hugs and condolences to you both.
Oh, no.
I hope there are more Tater stories you’ve been saving to share with us in the coming months and years…
<3
I hope I die before you so you can write an obit for me. You have done Tater proud her whole life long, even to the ending of it.
So, So sorry Murr, for you and Dave. Tater was an exceptional friend.
Such a beautiful tribute. I’m still weepy from reading how she followed, then led, Dave up the stairs. Our Minnie (RIP after 20 years) liked me well enough, but she absolutely loved my husband. His studio is on the third floor, and she always hung out there with him…except when she wanted to catch some rays from the skylight over the stairwell landing. My condolences to you and Dave.
So sorry Murr. What a great life Tater had and such a nice tribute.
So sorry for your loss. No other words suffice.
So sorry to hear the news of Tater’s passing. I know how hard it is. Thinking of you and Dave. Tater had a wonderful and happy life with you both. 💔
Bye Tater! Hugs to you Murr and Dave!
I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry that you lost your sweet Tater!
I was afraid to read this. Tears.
I’m so very sorry to hear about Tater. I’m glad that I had the chance to meet him. We lost two cats within a period of a few months a couple of years ago. It hurts.
My heart goes out to you and Dave.
So sorry for your loss! Losing a pet is so hard. We had a cat that was having lots of accidents toward the end of her life. Our carpet cleaner finally asked why we are keeping her around? He meant well by it and there was nothing malicious, but I can see why he would have hard time understanding it. She was literally a part of our family.
I appreciate every single comment here and thank you all for them. Grief doesn’t exist where there isn’t love and I’m grateful for that too.
I’m so sorry Murr. My favorite cat ❤️ Love yinz